Fremont officers help families in time of need

By Russ Krebs/Fremont Tribune
Thursday, Dec 04, 2008 - 11:13:49 am CST

Winter coats were at the top of the Christmas wish list for three little boys at the Walmart Supercenter Wednesday night.

Oh, they wanted toys too, but coats came first for the three Ulven boys on the third night of the annual Shop With a Cop program sponsored by the Fremont Fraternal Order of Police Lodge 37.

“I told them we were going to shop with the police officers and they said ‘You mean the ones with the handcuffs? Can we be police officers?’” said Nicole Ulven. “I didn’t know anything about it until Max’s teacher signed him up and sent a note home with him in his backpack. It’s wonderful. Not a lot of people have a lot of option for Christmas for three kids ” especially ones with special needs.”

Matthew, her 4-year-old son, has autism and Max, her 5-year-old son, was recently diagnosed with ADHD. Max, 2, also went shopping.

Off-duty officers will take

106 kids shopping this year as part of the Shop With a Cop program and spend approximately $100 per child on warm winter clothing and age appropriate toys. Families in need were nominated by their children’s schools, Care Corps or the Crisis Center to participate in the program that is funded through donations from local businesses and individuals.

This year, the Ulven family went shopping with Fremont Police Officer George Berry, a 37-year veteran, and his wife, Beth.

Being a single mom to the three doesn’t make things easy, Ulven said. Neither did working a graveyard shift as a nurse’s aid, but Ulven said she recently was hired full-time on a 2-10 p.m. shift so things will hopefully ease up.

“It would have been really bad without this,” Ulven said. “I didn’t know how I was going to do Christmas this year.”

The first place the family stopped on its shopping trip was the winter clothing area.

“I hear you all need coats,” Beth said as the night began.

“Do you know what size they are mom?” George asked.

Ulven knew the sizes. She also knew the coats the boys were wearing when the came into the store weren’t going to be big enough to last the winter.

“I like that one with the fur. It will keep his head so warm,” Ulven said. “I like that one on you buddy. Do you like it?”

Max found the right size and the group was on to the next items.

“We’ll get the other boys coats and then shoes,” Beth said.

With three winter coats in the shopping cart, they moved on.

“The sooner we get the shoes, the sooner we get the toys,” George said.

The boys picked out tennis shoes that they liked, including a pair of Shaq shoes for Max. However, when asked if he wanted to be a basketball player someday, he said he didn’t.

“No, I want to be Spider-Man,” the 5-year-old said. “Then I’m going to get the monster.”

Just before the toys came hats and gloves.

“He’s got a big brain, so he needs a big hat,” Ulven said about Matthew.

When they got to the toy aisles, Max picked out Legos and a few others, while little Ryan picked out an electronic guitar and Matthew picked out some Fisher Price toys. Ulven picked some books to read to the boys and to help teach them how to read.

“That was awesome,” Ulven said.

The boys all thanked the Berrys and wished them a Merry Christmas before visiting Subway for a free cookie.

“It’s fun, it really is,” Beth said.

“We’re not close to the grandkids, so this is kind of our Christmas too,” George said.

They both said they enjoyed the family and didn’t mind spending a little extra time with them.

“With autism, you’ve got to take your time,” Beth said. “We’ve been fortunate to have healthy kids and grandkids. We share a lot of their joy.”

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Dec 4, 2008 12:54 PM
Autism and ADHD?? How about we help some kids with real problems?
WOW
Dec 4, 2008 3:46 PM
WHAT A GREAT STORY! It's so nice to read some good news for a change.
Rayboy LaBeau
Dec 4, 2008 6:03 PM
Autism and ADHD are real problems. Maybe you qualify for this program. Start your shopping with a "Book of Manners".
Katherine
Dec 4, 2008 6:44 PM
I'm assuming whoever made that rude comment about helping kids with real problems has zero idea as to how it is to work with children with both of those. Stop being disrespectful. What a great story. These are people who deserve this. Three kids who wouldn't have had a Christmas otherwise! Great to hear about!
Chic
Dec 4, 2008 8:26 PM
Maybe all the cops in town could work on this project on say...maybe a Friday night. This would benefit everyone, especially Beldar and his spacecraft.
FPD Officers are Great
Dec 5, 2008 10:37 AM
I think it is great the the Fremont Police do this every year! To the nameless(and heartless) individual that made the comment regarding Autism and ADHD not being real problems. I think it is terrible that you said that, and unnecessary. Regardless of their problems, these were 3 kids that might not have had a Christmas without the help of Shop with a Cop. Not only that, but Autism and ADHD are REAL issues. Both can be very difficult to deal with. Although I personally believe that ADHD is an easy diagnosis for doctors to make and it is often over used when they don't want to deal with or take the time to find out the real issues. Back when I was a kid, they didn't have ADHD, they had hyper kids who's parent just delt with it and made the best of things.

But, back to the subject...Shop with a cop is a wonderful program and it really helps a lot of kids who don't get Christmas without it. It also gives the Children a great view of the police officers. It gives them the reassurance that they are the good guy and that they are always there for you! Thank you Fremont Police Department for all you do.
Momma
Dec 5, 2008 12:50 PM
I know that family and that mom and her kids deserve it. She has had some rought breaks but she is devoted to those kids. And anyone who thinks ADHD and Autism are not challenges should offer to babysit for some of these kids to give the parents a break--then you'll have your eye opened!!
Mandi
Dec 5, 2008 12:50 PM
To the person who posted the Autism and ADHD comment: How rude, you obviously have no clue on what these medical conditions are. My son has the inattentive form of ADHD and he struggled in school so badly before he was diagnosed. He was placed on medications and now is carrying A and B's on his report card. You really need to think before you speak!

I think the shop with a cop program is great. I think more organizations should step up and do things like this. I am glad to hear that not everybody in Fremont is a selish snob.
Dec 5, 2008 3:29 PM
I did think. ADHD is a cop out and autism will be the same soon enough. I will agree that the kids do deserve a xmas like most others, but c'mon these diagnoses are a joke.
Pay attention to your kids, treat them right and nurture them as they grow. This is what good parents do and what our parents did for most of us and we never were diagnosed with ADHD because we couldn't pay attention for 5 minutes or didn't talk until we were 5 or 6. Get with it people' alot of you are thinking the same thing but won't say it. What's next? Alcoholism is a disease?
Snoop
Dec 5, 2008 8:22 PM
"Cowards can never be moral."

Gandhi
aps
Dec 5, 2008 10:05 PM
if you want to help, voleenteer to ring the bell for the Salvation Army. They need bell ringers real bad.
Grace
Dec 6, 2008 9:18 AM
My first question is what do you consider a real problem then? I think the program is awesome. It helps kids that actually need these items. And of course very smart getting the needed items first. I hope these officers that are helping these families know how much they are helping and changing these kids lives.
WONDERFUL GIFT
Dec 6, 2008 10:31 AM
I THINK THIS IS A WONDERFUL PROGRAM AND IT IS SUCH A JOY FOR THE KIDS TO HAVE THE CHRISTMAS EVERY CHILD DESERVES. NOW FOR THE BAH HUMBUG PART. WHY OH WHY OH WHY, DO THESE SINGLE MOMS OR FAMILIES THAT ARE NOT FINANCIALLY DOING WELL CONTINUE TO HAVE CHILDREN? IT IS NOT FAIR TO THEM OR THE REST OF US THAT HAVE TO SUPPORT THEM BECAUSE THEY ARE ON ASSISTANCE. PEOPLE NEED TO WAKE UP AND BE RESPONDSIBLE. I KNOW MYSELF I HAVE TO BUDGET TO TAKE CARE OF MY FAMILY AND THEIR CHRISTMAS.
To Wonderful Gift
Dec 6, 2008 3:51 PM
Do you know this mother? Her youngest child is 4. Maybe 4 years ago she wasn't a single parent and was doing fine financially. In 4 years a lot of stuff can happen. Maybe she got divorced or ended the relationship with the children's father and has worked hard to provide for them since. Or maybe her partner passed away. I don't know the whole story, so I'm not going to make any assumptions.
to ignorant
Dec 6, 2008 11:22 PM
Autism is not about not being able to talk right away - you argue in here but you obviously have no idea what you're talking about. And ADHD is a real diagnosis, even if it is over used. My sister was diagnosed with it 35 years ago, and i can see the same symptoms in her son. It just isn't treated or looked at the same now as it used to be.
Amber
Dec 7, 2008 2:36 AM
Obviously those without sin have cast the first stone! I was enjoying this story & then was shocked to see the comments posted about a retired police officer who served our community for 37 years & a mom who cares for our elderly in nursing homes. Both careers take very special people & I hope God continues to bless them both. I'm sorry I read the comments posted... I commend her for working (a back breaking job I might add) & caring for these kids on her own. I would like to remind everyone that people do their best & just be thankful that you don't know these struggles. Thanks to those in the story for sharing their lives with us!
CM
Dec 7, 2008 6:49 AM
Thank you for the article !!
Kudos to the Berries for giving their time to help out this single mother and her children this holiday season !
Think More
Dec 8, 2008 11:25 AM
Your ignorance is showing. you need to get educated on autism. There are very strigent criteria for diagnosis, and the good news is...most kids can make tremendous progress. You have no right to judge parents! My son is loved, wanted, and given lots of proper attention, and because of that, his autism is almost to the point where you would barely notice. But we work everyday on things.
You are a mean-spirited person!!!! Don't bring bad karma on yourself!!!!
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How you can help

The Shop With a Cop program is still in need of donations. Currently there is a fundraiser at Fremont Mall with a donated mini bike that will be awarded to the highest pledge on Dec. 22.

Any other donations can be mailed to Fremont Fraternal Order of Police Lodge No. 37, P.O. Box 2137 Fremont, NE 68026 or dropped off at the dispatch area of the police station.

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